I grew up as a perpetual worrier, and it’s no surprise either. I was raised by a single parent (also a perpetual worrier) who struggled on a weekly basis to pay the bills and put food on the table. It was a scarcity fuelled household, and the foundation of my mindset was built on that.
I took the anxiety with me through my childhood all the way to university. Questions cropped up in my head such as:
•How will I pay off my debt?
•What am I going to do after university?
•What if I don’t get the grades and I can’t get a job?
•What if I don’t live up to the expectations of my friends and family?
•What if I don’t like the course?
3 years later I graduated from university and all those worries turned out to be superficial.
But then a new plan cropped up. I decided to go travelling. And of course, I packed my backpack with some new anxious questions:
•What if I run out of money?
•What if I don’t meet anyone or when i do i don’t live up to their expectations?
•What if I get hurt or become ill?
•What if I can’t find a job?
•What if I don’t like it?
Same fears. New context.
Clear pattern. Vicious circle.
I’d combat my old fears, find a different context, and compose new fears to become anxious about.
Is it just me, or do you do the same?
My Perspective on Anxiety – Let it Guide You
I’m still human, I still live with fears from time to time, and so do you. The difference now is that I understand myself more and have better control over my fear.
Accept that fear exists and there’s no running away from it.
In 25 years on this planet, about 80% of my fears didn’t materialise, and most of the ones that did weren’t experienced at the intensity I’d imagined them at.
The aim isn’t to get rid of anxiety, but rather, learning to control it and use it to guide you towards your passions and vision in life.
I can only be thankful for anxiety. It’s always shown me what I really want, and has pushed me forwards towards my goals in life.
Without anxiety, I wouldn’t have sacrificed and worked so hard to go to university. I wouldn’t have graduated university as the top student in my business school. I wouldn’t have made a rash decision to travel the world for 3 years. And considering all of that, I probably wouldn’t be writing this blog.
So when you’re experiencing anxiety, here’s a few things to remind yourself:
•Realise that you are not alone with your anxious thoughts, everybody has fears and it’s all part of being human.
•Remind yourself that despite the fears, you’ve made it here, and it always turns out ok in the end.
•Remember that your thoughts are not real and that you have the option to control your reality and how you react to your fears.
•Become aware of your fears as soon as they arise. Confront and feel the fear, acknowledge it. If the fear is something you really want to do and isn’t going to hurt you or others, go towards it, use the fear and let it guide you to new territories.
•And finally, a very powerful and useful question to ask yourself to put the fear into perspective: Will this matter in one year’s time? And if it still matters in 1 year, try 5, then 10, then 20.
It was a great decision to hit the road three years ago. It put me out there, forced me to become vulnerable, and massively increased my exposure to fear.
In turn, this enabled me to learn a lot faster, since more often than not, I had no choice but to ride with fear.
Most of the great moments in life are found on the other side of fear. Never let fear outweigh the potentiality of experience. Work with it, not against it. It’s there to guide you towards your calling and show you what truly matters in life.
Thanks for reading and all the best,
Daniel Beaumont, Wednesday 6th January 2015
About the Author
Hello everyone, I’m Daniel – a 27 year old writer from the north of England, currently living in Bucharest, Romania, where I’m currently writing my first book.
I am passionate by the human experience, especially the connection between travel, life and personal development.
Since 2012 I’ve been on transformational journey, travelling 40 countries across 4 continents.
During my journey, I discovered that travel is a great catalyst for one’s personal growth, and now I want to share want i’ve learned and empower others to embark on their own personal travel journey.
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